Moderate Conformists.

I saw this quote today. It is true to a degree, with the exception of those levels that I would never dare stoop to. I took a social psychology course in college and we discussed the topic of conforming. We all conform- some not enough..and some way too much. I guess I enjoy the Buddhist mentality of the "middle way"...another way of saying: moderation. I'm rambling...


The point is that there are High Conformists (HS) vs Low Conformists (LC). The HC will change their self completely based on their surroundings. They will change their belief system, their mannerisms, speaking patterns and their entire personality in general. This person has no consistence when it comes to their self. The LC is the complete opposite. They don't conform at all. Which is worse?


 Being at either extreme is a problem. The HC changes to make everyone happy in their life. They will agree with anyone at any time. The LC will go against anything just because they want to be different..both can be dangerous. The HC could harm their emotional health by conforming to any situation. The LC could become a complete anarchist and harm others around them just to avoid conforming to any rule or social norm. 


I don't like extremes in any situation. Maybe that makes me an extremist against extremes? Rambling again. The reason I started writing this post is because I'm realizing we are all actors to a point. We must moderately conform to live a happy life. 


I behave differently with my supervisors at work than I would with my best friends. I behave differently with my boyfriend than I would with relatives. I behave differently with my siblings than I would with a complete stranger. We all change to a point depending on the given situation. But are we doing this in a healthy manner? Are we staying consistent at all? We are all actors. Hopefully..we are moderately conforming.